Every person in the world makes mistakes in life. When a person is honest with themselves and humble before their God, they are willing to admit when they are wrong, out of line or walking in sin. They are willing to apologize, ask for forgiveness, make restitution how they need to, repent and turn from their wrong to do right in the future. When you put forth the effort to do so, those with a heart after God’s own heart should want to extend forgiveness and move towards reconciliation in relationships.
Sometimes when we care and love someone enough to go through the risk, challenge and difficulty to speak truth to them about their behavior because you see a destructive pattern in their life that may be hurting them and/or others around them, understand that one’s loving thoughtfulness towards them is not always met with appreciation!!! It is something we should keep in mind each of us personally when we hear truth about ourselves, too!!! I am thankful to hear truth about myself upon serious reflection of it before our Father for His guidance for me. His Word tells us:
“let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance.”
We can always listen, take what we hear before our Father and rest in His final decision/outlook for us. We should not seek out ungodly counsel purposefully though or follow the advice of counsel contrary to our Father’s written Word. Not only does our Father call us to listen to wisdom, but He also calls us to share His wisdom with others around us in life. Sometimes this can be saying very hard things and to do that is always a hard call to make to speak truth to another and one that takes serious prayer, but our Father tells us in His written Word (the Bible):
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love.”
Our Father gave us the emotions of anger and frustration. They are indicators that something is wrong. Short-term anger and frustration can be a good attribute when something is morally or ethically done wrong in us or towards someone on our team – for example, if someone lies or cheats or some thing that someone does violates someone’s rights. In these situations, it is good to speak out in Father’s truth and love.
I have seen many times in life how anger and frustration is allowed to last long term and raise havoc on relationships and the joy that our Father desires for us to have as His people. Holding on to a claim of being hurt to procrastinate admission of a sin and needed repentance or to hide from it in Satan’s convincing shame and guilt for us rather than facing the issue truthfully and moving forward having learned from the experience is not our Father’s heart for any of us. Often someone hurt will continue long term to remind the person who spoke truth to them of how out of line they were in doing so because it hurt them. This can be an unconscious or conscious tactic to belittle the truth speaker in an effort to build themselves up because of their low self esteem in not being able to handle the truth that they were wrong and in a place of needing someone to speak truth to them. It can also be a motive of withholding love to a person intentionally as a payback for them speaking truth and interfering with a sin that they want to hold on to in their life. When we have an honest heart open to Jesus, He can reveal truth in these things into each of our lives and help us have victory over Satanic strongholds upon our hearts!!! Oh let us always choose divine victory life, dear ones!!!
In life, there are times when we all truly can be embarrassed, hurt, ashamed, angered or frustrated and it can take time and effort to fight off strongholds in these areas. I recall a time when a brother of mine shared the words with me to rebuke the enemy of unforgiveness out loud, commanding him and his demonic influences to leave me. We then prayed with God’s truth for God’s authority and victory to fill me up and knock away that stronghold. It worked right away and I am sooo thankful to be free from unforgiveness!!! I think we can all understand that in life and Jesus certainly understands us. However, these times are times that should be dealt with in the short term and then as God’s people, we should move right back in to living in the repentant fruit and renewed joy of the Holy Spirit’s love and grace for us as kingdom sons and daughters. Jesus modeled this for us when He was angered over the actions taking place in the temple. He had the necessary conversation to bring correction and clear understanding, then let it go to move forward into divine life. He did not make it a long-term emotional issue that kept Him bringing it up or keep Him from doing what was right. I have heard many stories where people hang on to grudges all their lives and then after a person has passed away, the grudge holder wishes they would have gotten right with them before they left. They wish they could’ve had courage to share that deep down they really did love the person, they were sorry and desired reconciliation to happen. Oh the sadness of the destruction to relationships that pride in hearts can have!!!
God gave us emotions and there is nothing wrong with having emotions, however, it is important that we learn to deal with our emotions rightly. Jesus had emotions, too and understands us each one fully!!!
There was only one time in Jesus’ mission on earth when He was just about shut down from moving forward divinely and that was when He was bearing the weight of all sin upon Him with its temptation of falling into the enemy’s overwhelming accusations of embarrassment, shame and guilt. Jesus gained the victory over the enemy thru prayer to His Father and with the mindset towards His Father’s heart as “not my will, but Yours be done.” I am thankful Jesus dealt with it right away and did not let it lead Him to procrastinate divine action in life!!!
Jesus stepped forward into life to do the right thing towards the people of the world that brought eternal victory and reconciliation of all people to our Father. Because Jesus did the right thing in life, there is forgiveness by our Father of all sins of all of us who believe in Christ’s efforts on the cross for us and eternal life for us in Father’s kingdom being ushered into fullness soon that will be forever free from ongoing enemy influence. We also now have the indwelling of our Father’s Holy Spirit within our hearts as believers to empower us to live victoriously over the enemy of us (Satan). If Jesus has forgiven us as children of faith, He tells us so we should forgive one another. We may find a huge improvement in our relationships in life if we all seek to eliminate the sense of embarrassment, sense of shame, guilt if you don’t play well and sense of distress like your life is ruined if you don’t play like you are suppose to. Culture is always inundated with this stuff. We don’t need to be part of it, saints – it just doesn’t work. It always raises the intensity level too high and tactical and people will play in life too uptight, fearful of making a mistake or eventually become so discouraged by the enemy that they just shut down, too weak to fight anymore. Let us not let Satan do that to us ever!!! Let us always fight for what is the right and best life!!!
One of the best things a girlfriend said to me many years ago as a young Christian was “Don’t let Satan allow you to wallow in this problem.” May we always remember that Father’s joy is the best emotion in life. Getting rid of complacency of sin, long-term anger and frustration is important to moving forward divinely victorious. We can do so when we have the mindset that our Father’s love and grace for us is sufficient as this song says here and that His plans for us are best. Let us step forward in His love, grace and the pursuit of His goodness. Much love to you wherever you are at in life. Only Father knows fully your heart and only Father knows fully my heart and He can reveal what we each need to see in life as individuals to move forward and not wallow in the enemy’s muck and mire. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and often times that prisoner is yourself. Are you free or still wallowing with our enemy of this life and Father’s kingdom???